Stressed About Being Stressed?

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Yes!  I am going to be one of those beauty bloggers who is going to blog about other topics.  I hope that doesn’t upset anyone.  I will continue blogging about beauty because it is my passion and my form of escapism.  However, I want to talk about other topics that I am also passionate about because honestly, I am running out of beauty products to talk about.

They say one of the best things about growing older is that you become more confident, wise, and independent.  Although, given the chance again, I would love to be young again.  Imagine being able to play volleyball for hours and not be hurting the next day!  I don’t know how much “wiser” I have become over the years, but I have found that I have gotten better at coping with stress though.

Here are a few strategies that have helped me have a more healthy outlook on stress.  These strategies are not fool-proof by any means, but they have guided me through many difficult times in my life.

Differentiate Between Healthy and Not Healthy Stress

When it comes to stress, it is not something that can be easily measured like your body temperature.  Plus, what is healthy stress anyway?  In my mind, I feel that healthy stress is a result of working towards something you want to accomplish.  Something that brings you joy.  For example, even though it stresses me to find time to blog outside of work, I find such joy in the blogging process that I find the stress motivating.

In contrast, I feel that bad stress brings you down, doesn’t motivate you, and just makes you feel overwhelmed.  Of course, there will always be stress that is unwanted, but necessary.  For example, you might not want to attend a family gathering where you might have to socialize with relatives that might not be your favourite people.  Even though you might not want to be there, it is important you show up because your parents want you there and family is important.

So when does it become bad stress then?  I think it becomes unhealthy when you feel overwhelmed.  I usually just end up crying.  For me, it could be taking on too much at work because I felt I needed to impress my boss.  It could be saying yes to too many events.  I’m sure everyone knows that feeling of being worn down and not looking forward to the day.  I have learned that over the years, it is important to pay attention to these warning signs before you have a complete meltdown and your mental and physical  health deteriorate.

Determine What is Your Idea of Balance

Over the years, I have found that life balance is hard, but I think I have gotten better at it.  Like anything in life, it takes work.  It is important to stop down periodically and take a quick assessment of everything in your life.  Then, determine which items to keep and drop so that the scale doesn’t tip too much to one side.  Take a close look at those unhealthy stressors and decide which ones to keep or manage better so that they become healthier.  For example, Christmas often is a stressful time for me as there are so many events to show up too.  I usually just have to sit down and prioritize those that I just have to attend.  Then, reconsider the maybes and decide which ones I feel will bring me joy.

What are your ways to deal with stress?  I’d love to know.  I have so much more I want to write about this topic so watch out for more posts if you are interested.  If you love my beauty posts, watch out for my next post as well.  Thanks for reading!

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12 thoughts on “Stressed About Being Stressed?

  1. Playing video games has always been my main form of escaping/relieving stress. I have many other coping strategies too, such as mindfulness, exercise and eating chocolate! My newest stress relief is blogging and reading informative well written articles.
    Cheers.

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  2. IDK how much wiser I’ve become either, but I do think that I’ve gotten better at finding balance even if it’s just a bit. I think that I used to feel bad (and spend time feeling bad!) whenever I’d turn down things I didn’t want to do. But now it’s like, I’m just going to not do it and eat a pizza. 😆

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  3. I feel like the stress you’ve mentioned is more related in doing things/ responsibilities? I feel like I cope well with those kinds of stress and they’re basically good stress as you mention. Bad stress for me is emotionally stress when I’m overthinking things and get myself anxious a lot which is terrible and I don’t really know how to cope with that 😦 but I like the post!

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    1. Thank you so much for reading! Yeah definitely for me, you are right! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I think everyone goes through emotional stress. I think it is good to talk to someone else about it, but I think it gets better as you get older. Thanks so much for reading! 🙂

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  4. I can definitely related to this. Stressing about being stressed just leads to more stress, and I feel like it’s become a habit for me. It’s weird when the major stressful events are over because I don’t know how to not be stressed and I end up getting fixated on minor things (like makeup lol). Even though I get very anxious before social events, I don’t get too stressed out because I know that they will end after a few hours and I can make up an excuse to leave early.

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