As we get older, it seems like life becomes a balancing act. We have to go to work, but still have to find time to wash the laundry and figure out what to have for dinner. Furthermore, we also have to figure out how effectively to divide our time with our partner, family, and friends. Just writing about this, gives me a bit of headache. I mean, let’s me honest, “adulting” is often not one of the “funnest” things in life. In this blogpost, I thought I would write about some strategies I use to cope.
Look at the Big Picture (a.k.a Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff)
When I have a problem, I often blow it out of proportion. The world is coming to an end! Sometimes, I become the biggest drama queen in my own drama series. When this happens, I try to remind myself that my life is minuscule in the world. Of course, there are big problems that effect us, but most of the time, I find it is way too easy to sweat the small stuff. It is ok that the laundry doesn’t get done today and today’s dinner wasn’t some culinary masterpiece. I mean, gosh, take-out pizza is so satisfying sometimes. I always hear about how we should pick our battles in life and I feel that totally applies to finding balance in our life as well.
Prioritize What is Important in Your Life
As I mentioned in my last blogpost, I find it important to differentiate between good stress and bad stress. To me, bad stress is draining, overwhelming, and brings you down. To stop bad stress from taking over my life, I find prioritizing really important. I try to figure out what is important to me and what I want from my life. When I feel that certain situations start to overwhelm me, I try to decide if it is important enough for me to be embroiled in them. This could mean saying no sometimes or adjusting my life to in way that will no longer makes it as stressful. We often forget that we always have a choice in how we want to live our life and how we respond to things. Don’t let others take over the driver’s seat.
It’ll be Okay
I think I have seen some form of this phrase on multiple slogan tees and banners. There is good reason, because it is most likely true barring some life-threatening situations. In fact, my dentist just said it to me yesterday when I sighed after he said I might have to redo my dental bridge. He said, “You know it’ll be ok, right?” It is not the first time he has said that to me, and of course, he is right. I mean, in the great scheme of things, it is really just dental work. Even if life sometimes doesn’t turn out like how you want to, it’ll most likely still be ok.
You Can’t Have it All, All the Time
I know there will be some people that completely disagree with me. I mean, I think it is possible to have it all. Everyone’s perspective on “having it all” is different. However, I think sometimes our quest to follow our dreams hinders us from valuing some of things we do possess. We get so obsessed with having the perfect job, the perfect family, and personal success, that we forget to “smell the roses.” I mean, you might already have it all really, you just didn’t know.
Being Slightly Unbalanced is Not Necessarily a Bad Thing
Sometimes, I feel like everyone is in search of balance. Look at all the yoga and meditation classes that are popping up everywhere. I just think that sometimes, it’s okay to feel a little unbalanced because the constant quest to be “zen” is stress in itself. Sometimes, a bit of stress is motivating and helpful to our mental health. Can you imagine if you are always relaxed and suddenly something really stressful happens to you? You would have absolutely no idea how to deal with it. Do that scary presentation sometimes, it might make you less stressed out in the long run.
How do you try to maintain balance in your life?